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I have so many feelings about this as "making dinner" has fallen so much on my women friends EXCEPT the ones who married firefighters. Of my friends who have married firefighters, most of us have spouses who do the cooking. Which works for me because I detest cooking, and really do not know how to even prepare a decent meal--I have done about 4% of the cooking in our lifetime. I think--if you like to cook dinner, do! If you don't, don't. And if R asked me "what's for dinner" I think my answer is "whatever you're cooking" otherwise I'm having "Girl Dinner" (a meal made up of a variety of snack foods, such as bread, crackers, cheese, fruit, deli meat, and pickles, that are served on a plate or ANY easy meal). And I know the truth--if we had DoorDash in our neighborhood, I'd be broke.

Also--this made me laugh: “When my husband asks what’s for dinner, I want to divorce him." Mine would be "what time is the _____________ (insert thing we are both going to but apparently, I'm the one with the clock built into my brain) again?" lol.

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Love this—Firefighters!!♥️♥️♥️

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Yes. The tyranny of dinner is a thing! And it's multiplied when there are kids involved to cook for, Every. Single. Night. There is even some small tyranny around having a partner who cooks dinner every night if you are the partner who doesn't necessarily want to eat a whole meal every night. (AKA Girl dinner. Thank you Tik Tok.) It's fun reading about other people's dinner rituals! xo

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I once worked with someone whose husband cooked elaborate meals every single night of the week. A colleague charged over to my desk one day, having learned this, and said “Did you know S’s husband cooks for her EVERY NIGHT?” I paused, thought about it and replied. “Yeah, but it means she can never have a quick meal over the sink or a sleeve of crackers and call it good. That would drive me up the wall.” My friend agreed, and marched back to her office a new woman.

I have mixed feelings about the term Girl Dinner however, I suppose it “brands” a style of eating I can definitely raise my hand to. XOOX

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I totally agree to mixed feelings about the term Girl Dinner. Totally enjoyed reading this piece though!

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I love this! The tyranny of dinner in 3 acts superb!

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Thank you Michelle ♥️

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This is a wrestling match torn from the pages of my life. “What shall we do for dinner?” fills me with knuckle dragging resignation. And yet each day I sit at the dinner table with souls I love around food I am glad to eat.

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It's great, even humorous, that at the end of all the rage-wriggling, everything is generally ... A-OK. 😂 I think once I saw that, the dinner problem began to soften. XOXO

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